In case you’re wondering, I’m not talking about some paranormal being that is sharing my home with me.
I was referring to an actual human visitor or guest whom you’ve picked up from the arrival hall of your local airport. It could be a friend whom you have not seen in many years or it could be someone you met from your last travel to Italy and that person has decided to pay you a visit. Technically, he or she would be treating your home like an AirBnB.
My husband and I have been living in our condo for three years now but we never had the chance of having someone else living with us. Apart from our two cats, of course. When you have another person living with you, things can be different. Your way of life changes, for one. And the way you normally do things. Not to mention, the number of belongings and clothes pile up. If your guest happens to stay with you for more than a couple of days, you may want to lay down some rules. After all, it’s still your home and the last thing you need is for your guest to turn it upside down. Even if it’s your very close friend, you wouldn’t want that relationship torn apart because of some silly habit.
I remember staying in Brisbane for six months with two housemates. We lived at a river-side housing, off campus. A three-bedroom, two-bathroom place with a friend I met in college and another person from a different country. My friend and I were close back in our college days. But living with her was another thing altogether. I suppose we thought that what could go wrong, after all, we’ve known each other for some time now and us living under the same roof would just bring us closer. Or so I thought. Apparently, I was wrong. Whether we had house rules or not, the two of us being in such close proximity together actually tore us apart.
And yes, because of several tiny and trivial habits.
But I’m now living in my own space with my husband and a friend who just arrived in the country yesterday. She’d be here for a month but for the time being, she’ll be staying with me until her parents fly back to the country. While she’s an agreeable person and an easy-going individual, there still has to be some house rules to follow or else all hell will break loose.
So far, everything is great. Everything is going smoothly and no one’s stepping on any toes. I can say it’s going well particularly because all of us are introverts. We value our precious time spent together during meal times but we also appreciate the occasional time-out to unwind and be on our own. In fact, I truly appreciate her staying with us at the moment as her presence forces my husband and I to live properly. In a sense that breakfast, lunch and dinner are taken between the hours of 9:00am to 11:00am; 12:00pm to 2:00pm; and 6:00pm to 8:00pm, respectively. In the weeks before this, we were going to bed at 5:00am after spending the entire night gaming, waking up at 1:00pm, while having our lunch and dinner at 4:00pm and 10:00pm. And the horrid cycle starts again when we go to bed at 5:00am.
What do you think? Would you set down some rules for a friend who’s staying with you to follow or would you let them live as they please?